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Hopeful for the holiday season

By Annie Lane - Dear Annie | Nov 27, 2022

Annie Lane

Dear Annie: I am looking forward to the holiday season this year, just as I have in years past, and I wanted to share my thoughts about this. Being an octogenarian, born in 1940, I see things more clearly as I enter the twilight of my life.

Talk about change and understanding, what a way to begin the fall and winter seasons of my life, both literally and figuratively, with Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s and the like.

Hopefully, this will be a renaissance for inspirational occurrences and uplifting events that are demonstrative of fighting the good fight, as so many have been striving for.

For some, cruelty and bullying have been seen as strengths and signs of success. And yet, they are not.

Basically, I see these forthcoming “seasons” of renewal as promoting opportunities for us, collectively, to get things right among ourselves.

Eventually, I hope and pray that we can coalesce together and be(come) one nation for the common good and overall benefit of “we the people.”

What a way to begin the new season of politics, practices and policies for us all.

Just imagine: America the great; America the wonderful; America the blessed! — Perspective at Age 82

Dear 82: Love your hopefulness and striving for a better world. You might be an octogenarian, but your optimistic attitude makes you very youthful.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 32 years. Prior to our engagement, 27 years ago, there was communication and the exchange of gifts with our exes.

My problem is that during the last three years, I discovered through browser history that my husband had looked up two of his ex-wives. There was no evidence of contact.

I was surprised and felt that I am really not up for this at this juncture of my life. Too many other things have made me less forgiving. I’ve always been the one to organize and keep things light — fun, sexy and solid. But because of this, I’m not feeling it at all. I’m thinking of moving forward after 32 years.

What’s your take on this situation? Is this normal behavior or not for a 65-year-old married man? To me, it feels disrespectful. — Wondering

Dear Wondering: If you think that it feels disrespectful, then it is disrespectful. But checking your husband’s browser could be seen as disrespectful, too. Regardless of who is in the right, there needs to be a conversation and more communication about why he is looking at his exes and why you are snooping on his computer. Trust and honesty are the pillars of a good marriage.

“How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?” is out now! Annie Lane’s second anthology — featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation — is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.


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